Tuesday, September 9, 2014

15 of 20 - Intimidation

Bad Stories People often let you know about their personality by the stories they tell about themselves. It's the old story about giving a person enough rope and they'll hang themselves. The stories a person tells informs us of how they see themselves, what they think is interesting, and what they think will impress you. A humorous individual will tell funny stories on himself. "The Loser" tells stories of violence, aggression, being insensitive to others, rejecting others, etc. They may tell you about past relationships and in every case, they assure you that they were treated horribly despite how wonderful they were to that person. They brag about their temper and outbursts because they don't see anything wrong with violence and actually take pride in the "I don't take nothing from nobody" attitude. People define themselves with their stories, much like a culture is described by it's folklore and legends. Listen to these stories - they tell you how you will eventually be treated and what's coming your way. 

Warning Signs you are Dating a Loser by Joe M. Carver PhD.
To see all 20 signs and steps to end the relationship click here

This is so true and we should all be taught to see these red flags that are waving right in front of our eyes. And it happens early too! Just be aware that abusers can also turn the switch to "charming" and those are harder to find right away unless you have some serious BS radar going on. Some do and some are better at ignoring them.

Thunderstorm early shared his stories of getting into fights and beating people to the point that they could not move. Running away from the cops and having people cover up for him. These were all proud memories to him. He also often talk about how much he excelled in the Marine corp thanks to his aggressive ways - which in reality was the Marine corp rewarding abusive behaviors. Thunderstorm truly believes that the world should be ran as the Marine corps and that the world is his subordinate (a word he loves to use).

Fighting was a big part of who he was growing up. Who he identifies himself with. How he protect himself, how he resolved arguments and how he shows his emotions. This shines through even today in his actions, force and intimidation. 

1 comment:

  1. Hmm... you got me thinking. ..how did I think that all his stories from his partition in the war -him telling me excitingly!- would ever leave him...